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Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy partnership. With it, your relationship can thrive and withstand even the biggest challenges. Without it, you 'll be ill - equipped to take on really tough stuff. It is difficult to be vulnerable and share problems with others, therapist Kimberly Hershenson told INSIDER. When a partner is able to open up to you, it is important to not break their trust. This trust means that not only do you avoid blabbing about your childhood secrets when you 've had one too many glasses of red wine, but also that you can trust each other not to let others down. Sometimes, a relationship's success isn't determined just by how much work each partner puts in or their personalities. Sometimes it's all up to chance. If you and your partner have similar goals that would take you to similar places, that is a big factor in determining if you re in it for the long haul, therapist Jim Seibold told INSIDER. This is a good reminder that you should be have frequent chats about what you want out of a relationship, and life, with regards to kids, marriage, jobs, and location. It probably goes without saying that being unhappy with your sex life can be a strain on your relationship and could even cause a split. But physical intimacy comes in many forms, all of which are important. Even if you re not getting it on every single night, showing even the slightest form of physical affection can keep a relationship strong. You physically touch each other, Hershenson say. Whether it's kissing hello or goodbye, snuggling on the couch, or holding hands. Even non - sexual touching builds connection between partners. If you re committed to anyone for an extended period of time, you 'll start to develop your own way of communicating and talking through things. If you and your partner are made for the long haul, not only will you have a specialized way of hashing things out, you 'll have both think through the way you are talking to each other and make it a priority to speak to each other with care. Many individuals find themselves in relationships where they have fun together, but are unable to openly communicate their feelings, desires and wishes, marriage coach Eric Hunt tell INSIDER. Often this leads to further issues in relationships and is usually the root cause of most major disputes. Couples who are able to effectively communicate are able to better understand one another and experience greater intimacy. For some people, pain of admitting that they were wrong in an argument is akin to stepping on lego or biting into tinfoil. It's rough. But those in healthy partnership will take a blow to their pride if it means ending argument or letting their partner know that they are sorry, Hershenson say. If you and your partner seem to do this equally, and move on quickly, your relationship is built to last. Having a long - term partnership means dealing with every aspect of that person.

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We Unconsciously Pick Our Parents

As a child, foresight is hard to come by. There's no grasp of consequences or implications of your actions or how the choices of someone else might affect you. When it comes to your relationship with your parents, childhood inability to comprehend how emotions and actions of your parents affect your own behavior is predictably inept. It's not until you reach adulthood that a person can formulate even sheer understanding of the complexities of relationships, beginning with the connection between parent and child. From there, confusion ironically continues to build and becomes unfortunately frustrating as you try to filter friendships, romantic relationships, and beyond. To learn more about how to decode human connections beginning with childhood, I consulted with experts Scott Carroll, MD; April Masini, relationship and etiquette expert and popular media resource; and child psychologist, parenting expert, author, speaker, and mother, Dr. Vanessa Lapointe. As Carroll told Bustle via email, every relationship a person has, beginning at birth, is rooted in attachment style learnt from his or her parents. There are four attachment styles: secure, insecure - ambivalent, insecure - avoidant, and disorganize. A baby's attachment system with the same attachment style as mother's about 80 percent of the time; other 20 percent seems to be genetically - driven in terms of temperament, Carroll say. Here are 11 ways to explain how your relationship with your parents translates to your romantic life in adulthood.

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Grudges Are Hard to Overcome

If your partner is holding a grudge, whether it's toward you or someone else, one useful tool can be repeating what they say back to them in a calm way. Once you hear your partners ' complaints or grudge, repeat or paraphrase exactly what they say, Strachowski say. Do your best not to analyze what they are saying or interpret their emotions at this stage, but rather rephrase it SO that you can be sure you are correctly understanding what they are re thinking and feeling. By paraphrasing what your partner says and making sure you get it correct, you are validating your partner and making them feel heard, she say. You are showing that you care and want to understand them. Reflecting your partneras emotions is the next way to show that not only you heard what happen, but you imagine how it made them feel, Strachowski say. You are reflecting their emotions back to them. This is not the time to downplay what your partner is feeling by saying something like, It probably wasn't that bad. Instead, do your best to correctly identify and validate how your partner felt by saying something like, I can imagine that make you very angry. Approaching things in this way will help them feel closer to you, she say. You are in a better position to now move towards problem - solving. If you re confronting your partner about their tendency to hold grudges, it can be easy to use an accusatory tone. But this is exactly what you want to avoid in order to have productive conversation. Name their behavior in neutral tone and use neutral language, Christine Scott - Hudson, MA, LMFT, ATR, licensed psychotherapist, marriage and family therapist, certified somatic therapist, and owner of Create Your Life Studio, told Bustle. For example, say, I notice that you have brought up the joke I made last night twice now. Can you take a moment and check in with yourself, and then let me know if it is still bothering you? This initiates dialogue without putting them on the spot too much. If your partner is holding a grudge against you, you might be tempted to get defensive. No matter what they re hurt about, try not to make this question of who's wrong and who's right. Instead, apologize. Even if you don't feel like you do something that hurtful, express fact that you are sorry for hurting their feelings, Scott - Hudson say. Say something like, I do not intend to hurt your feelings, and I sincerely will be more careful joking about this sensitive topic in the future, she say, because I love you and you matter to me, and I don't want to hurt you. You are too important to me.

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We Struggle to Negotiate

At Negotiation Table, what is the best way to uncover your negotiation counterparts ' hidden interests? Build relationships in negotiation by asking questions, then listening carefully. Even if you have decided to make the first offer and are ready with a number of alternatives, you should always open by asking and listening to assess your counterparts ' interests. Note that if your style of listening isnt sufficiently empathetic, it wo elicit honest responses. A Relationship in Negotiation is perceive connection that can be psychological, economic, political, or personal;. Whatever its basis, wise leaders, like skilled negotiators, work to foster strong connections because effective leadership truly depends on it. Positive negotiation relationships are important not because they engender warm, fuzzy feelings, but because they engender trust - a vital means of securing desired actions from others. Consider that any proposed action, whether suggested by negotiator at the Bargaining Table or leader at a strategy meeting, entails some risk. People will view a course of action as less risky, and therefore more acceptable when it is suggested by someone that they trust. In order to create durable relationships in negotiation, there are four basic building blocks that can help you create effective partnerships with people you lead: two - way communication, strong commitment from the leader to the interests of those he leads, Reliability respect for contributions followers make to the organization. I agree with the content of the article. The challenge for parties is deciding the structure of and participants to negotiation process. My view is there needs to be a desire for ongoing relationship, appropriate negotiation dynamic and sufficient flexibility for parties to maneuver once an agreement in principle is agree. I think it is an important psychological process to ensure people feel they have some input into the process and not feel entrapped by the outcome. This can be largely overcome by good structure eg executives supporting negotiation process, negotiation process involving good dynamic eg small equal number of participants from each party, allowing people with most knowledge to negotiate eg people empowered at the lowest level, to prepare solution without third party intervention. Dont let good cooperation stifle robust discussions. Yes, building relationships is important for business, politics, security et al. Chinese call it Guang - Xi. Of course, there are connotations that it is used for corrupt practices. Yes, there are instances where buying influence become a problem. It is not only for Chinese and other Asians, but also for Americans, Europeans, Arabs etc. Nevertheless, for negotiation, building relationships is important, BUT care must be taken not to go over - board. I have been involved in several negotiations and also consultancy, and I find building relationships is the way to success - Trust is important, but take care during the process. Time and actions will tell.

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Swipe-Left Mentality Prevails

In many ways, it is easier to avoid doing all of the work that it takes to have a healthy, long - term relationship. Dating apps have created mentality that people and relationships are disposable and can easily replace. All you have to do is swipe left. The problem is, wherever you go, there you are. Whatever issues you have in one relationship, you are likely to have in another. If you do not learn the advanced communication and emotional skills it takes to have healthy relationship, your relationships will have a short shelf life. That just what it is. Finding a new partner may give you a nice endorphin rush and allow you to avoid doing some work by yourself, but it is not going to help you learn how to go distance.

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