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In addictive-relationships, anxiously attached Love Addict repeatedly attracts individuals with particular signs-and in turn, people with these particular are attracted to people with Love Addict and codependent traits. Type Of Person I Am Speaking Of Is Someone Who Is Love Avoidant. Like two magnetic forces coming together, both inevitably form and often toxic relationship. 2. Do complete About Face in relationship-become whole different person from whom you first met as your relationship progress, You notice complete change in your partners attitude. Complete About-Face occur. Your partner is notably different from person you first meet. In initial part of addictive relationships, Love Avoidant exhibits illusion of intimacy, caring, and connection. They form attachment idealizing their Love Addict partner. They come on strong and appear strong, stimulating, caring, generous, and devote-. Then relationship moves forward and soon enough, true colors of Love Avoidant emerge. Charm, attention, and go outs door-nos more! Seemingly, once available magical you fell for becomes cold, devaluing, and disengage. As Love Addict, you first cannot put finger on what is happening, BUT you can feel it, and shift in your partner is anxiety-provoking. You say to yourself or to friends / family, he / she was so thoughtful in beginning, where is I meet. I confused and baffle. What am I doing wrong? You may make excuses and even blame yourself for change you see in your partner. Invariably, you try give more, do more, be more romantic, or try to make things as they were. There is pursuit of keeping love relationship fantasy alive in order to recreate euphoria experienced at beginning of relationship. It is at this phase when Love Avoidant is carrying many of their strategies to avoid. You eventually feel shift in your partners ' attitude. You sense your is not really showing up in relationship. And it is true-because Love Avoidant is busy with their behavioral or emotional distancing strategies are used to impede closeness and squelch Intimacy. For example, Avoidant will compulsively focus outside relationship. Instead of seeking intensity in relationship, seek intensity outside relationship with use of various behaviors and distractions. Some will use distancing strategy of no commitment and never fully commit to relationship. They may say, I Love You, I care about you, I want to be with you, BUT am not quite ready for relationship. They may use distancing tactics to avoid I Love You, and make for why they do so. They may avoid physical closeness. Another strategy commonly used to sabotage intimate connections is by creating lot of drama in relationships, such as starting arguments, or constantly complaining about you, people, world, or grumbling about their personal problems they never seem to resolve.

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Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., MFT

Dan Neuharth, PhD, is marriage and family therapist and best-selling author based in San Francisco Bay Area. He has more than 25 years of experience providing couples and family therapy. Dr. Neuharth is author of If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in World. He writes two blogs for PsychCentral: Matters and Narcissism Decode. He is licensed as marriage and family therapist in California, Florida, Texas and Virginia. His website: drdanmftcounseling. Com please note: Dr. Neuharth's posts are for and educational purposes only. These posts are not intended to be therapy professional psychotherapeutic advice, and are not replacement for psychotherapy. I cannot give psychotherapeutic advice about your individual situation outside of therapist-client relationship. Posting of these blogs and information therein do not constitute formation of therapist-client relationship. Please consult your or mental health provider for individual advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour crisis or mental health hotline or dial 911.

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Mothers Harmful And Negative Influence

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment is insecure form of relationship attachment which affects around 7 percentage of population. It is combination of dismissive-Avoidant and preoccupy-Anxious Attachment Styles. Those with Fearful-Avoidant Attachment believe they do not deserve or are unworthy of Love. However, equally, they do not trust another person for fear that will be reject. Fearful-Avoidant Attachment is result of severe childhood trauma, emotional neglect or abuse. Scientific research illustrates that first 18 months of child's life impacts brain development. Exposure to severe trauma can cause long-term damaging effects, which change sensitivity and emotional regulation of brain. During childhood, emotion experience regularly was fear. Parents may have physically violent, abusive, suffering from PTSD, personality disorders, or been severely depressed. When looking for comfort, child would be met by frightening or fright parent, who would scare or confuse them and be unable to soothe them. In other words, person they sought comfort from was also person who caused them pain. It is not just angry or panicked caregivers that evoke fear in children. Still Face Experiment by Dr. Edward Tronik, illustrates severely depressed caregivers who are unable to express emotion can also evoke fear response in young children. Children raised in such environments will become hypervigilant for threat and simultaneously avoidant of interpersonal closeness and intimacy. When observed under laboratory conditions, these children can be seen to approach parent, only to freeze withdraw or wander about aimlessly. In like vane, as adults, they will simultaneously desire closeness and intimacy and approach potential attachment figures but then become extremely uncomfortable when they get too close to those partners and withdraw; hence message give to others is Come Here and Go Away. Of course, person with this Fearful Attachment Style is not likely to be fully conscious that he / she is enacting this process and may feel extremely misunderstood and victimized in professional, friendship and romantic relationships. This person may not perceive that he is actually one doing distancing and rejecting.-Come Away; Dynamics Of Fearful Attachment, Hal Shorey, Psychology Today. Their responses often highly unpredictable, erratic or even bizarre. Emotions were so heightened in that they are felt intensely, with extreme highs and lows. They will struggle to work together with partners be unable to explain what is happening internally to them. To partners may appear that they are often lying, holding secrets and highly paranoid. Some develop as coping strategy. Constantly inundated by avalanche of intense emotions, disorganized person learns to dissociate from them, essentially detaching from their emotions. As disorganized person detach from their emotions, they become less able to recognize, manage, or control these emotions. More They Detach From Emotional Self, Less They Are Able To Learn From Experiences, More Vulnerable They Become To Repeating Past Mistakes And Miscalculations.

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